Posted by
The Dutchmeister on Tuesday, April 24, 2007 7:24:29 AM
Currently, the big celebrity news item that everyone is talking about is
actor Alec Baldwin ripping into his 11-year-old daughter, Ireland, in a phone voicemail message recently. According to news reports, Baldwin has since apologized, and as far as I'm concerned that settles it for me. Although I disagree with his far-left political views, I admire and respect Alec Baldwin as a great and versatile actor.
As a man tormented by his vindictive ex-wife, actress Kim Bassinger, who for the past six years has been using the court system (even violating court orders herself in the process) to alienate Baldwin from their daughter, I can only imagine what the guy must be going through. Thus, in my view, his recent emotional outburst was understandable. He's fed up that his ex is doing everything in her power to turn their daughter against her father, despite his best efforts to be in her life. What parent wouldn't be emotionally at his/her wits' end?
Alec Baldwin is not the villain here. Kim Bassinger is.
Glenn Sacks has been following the Baldwin-Bassinger family drama from the beginning, and he, too, sympathizes with Badlwin. He makes some very good points in a recent
blog:
1) Basinger’s Alienation campaign against Baldwin has been so bad and so hurtful both to Baldwin and Ireland that even Kim Basinger’s mother has publicly condemned her daughter (see above).
2) Baldwin’s frustration is understandable–he’s trying hard to retain a relationship with his daughter in the face of Basinger’s relentless attempts to drive him out of his child’s life. Baldwin said:
“Once again, I have made an a&% of myself trying to get to a phone…I’m tired of playing this game with you…you have insulted me for the last time. I don’t give a d%#@ that you’re 12-years-old or 11-years-old, or a child, or that your mother is a thoughtless pain in the a%# who doesn’t care about what you do…you have humiliated me for the last time…This crap you pull on me with this godd**n phone situation that you would never dream of doing to your mother, and you do it to me constantly over and over again.”
He said some things he definitely shouldn’t have said, here and in the rest of the tape, but any parent in this situation would be angry.
3) There are times in any parent’s life when the parent blows up at his or her child. There is not one parent reading this–not one–who can honestly say that they’ve never lost their temper with their children and said things that they should not have said. Those in the media moralizing at Baldwin are either hypocrites, have a faulty memory, or are such marginal parents that they never interacted with their kids enough to reach a real level of frustration. I was a teacher for many years, and Baldwin’s tirade, while bad, is nowhere near as bad as some that I’ve heard. And sometimes the kids deserved it.
4) These tapes were leaked to the media by Basinger in violation of a court order. (Emphasis added.) Basinger’s purpose in leaking them was revenge against Baldwin and leverage in her court battle to drive Baldwin out of his daughter’s life. Does anybody really think that Ireland’s best interests are served by Basinger leaking this publicly?
Baldwin’s lawyer, Viki Roberts, said, “Whatever happened yesterday was sealed and confidential…The mother and her lawyer leaked this sealed material in violation of a court order. Although Alec acknowledges that he should have used different language in parenting his child, everyone who knows him privately knows what he has been put through for the past six years….In the best interest of the child, Alec will do what the mother is pathologically incapable of doing - keeping his mouth shut and obeying the court order.”
5) While Baldwin was over the top, sometimes kids need to be called to account for their behavior. Ireland had repeatedly defied her father and repeatedly broken commitments to him–any mother or father would and should be angry in that situation.
6) Baldwin tells Ireland he’s going to “straighten her out,” so the Basinger camp and its allies are calling this “threatening.” I doubt this was any real threat–he was cracking down on his daughter’s misbehavior, as any parent should. Physical abuse of daughters by their fathers is extremely rare, and there’s no history of it between Baldwin and Ireland.
7) One tactic frequently employed by alienating mothers–including Basinger–is to drive the father crazy by employing alienation tactics, violating visitation orders, forbidding the father to speak to the child on the phone, poisoning the child’s mind against the father, etc. This is done in an effort to provoke the father into blowing his top. And when he does, mom pretends to be a scared, quivering little lamb fearful of “his awful temper.”
Basinger played it very well here, and Baldwin was foolish to allow himself to fall into her trap. I’m sure Basinger will now be telling us how traumatized Ireland is, and how she is fearful and needs therapy and time away from her father to recover from what he did to her. What Ireland really needs is time away from Basinger and her malignant alienation. I doubt any conflict between Ireland and Baldwin would last 10 minutes if not for Basinger’s influence.
Sacks goes on to report in another blog that Kim Bassinger's actions are so deplorable that ever Bassinger's own mother has publicly condemned her from alienating her ex-husband from their daughter.
Regarding Basinger’s mother’s description of the alienation campaign, the Irish Examiner reported:
“Kim Basinger’s mother has blasted her own daughter for wrecking relations between her ex-husband Alec Baldwin and the couple’s daughter. Baldwin recently took Basinger to court in a bid to extend his custody terms after the actress allegedly violated a court imposed settlement, and now little Ireland’s grandmother is speaking out about the court battle…she calls [Baldwin] ‘wonderful,’ adding, ‘My heart is sad for Ireland. She’s the one that’s suffering the most. All this is killing her. I think Kim has tried to alienate Ireland from her father. Alec loves his daughter with all his heart. He really is a family man…I hate what [Kim] is doing.’”
Bassinger's leaking that Baldwin's voicemail to the media was cold-blooded to say the least. To reiterate, she is the real villain, not Alec Baldwin. What exactly does she expect to get out of preventing her ex-husband from having a relationship with his daughter - something he has every right to as a parent, by the way? Given everthing she's put the man through, she's primarily to blame for Baldwin blowing his top at his daughter.
Like I said, Bassinger is the real villain in this drama.